What Attracts You

Have you ever wondered why you are attracted to who you’re attracted to?

I have.

Why are we attracted to a certain type? The bad boy, the charmer or the manipulator. That guy that doesn’t value you, is emotionally unavailable, and consistently disappoints you, and yet he is as addictive as crack cocaine.

It’s a physiological response that happens in our brain when you see someone you’re attracted to. It happens in our subconscious. You don’t even have to try, it just happens. Your heart rate increases, your palms may become sweaty or your face  becomes flushed.guy-girl

That’s why you may find yourself on the rat wheel of dating. Continuing to chose the same guy over and over, only to be disappointed again. Your conscious mind has no understanding of what just happened in your subconscious mind when a hot guy walks into the room.

I am here to empower every single dating female out there.  We can break the cycle! We can retrain our brain and attract the right guy.

First things first.

Identify your pattern. Take a look at your dating history. What are the common themes about the guys you’ve been dating? We are not only attracted to a guy because of his positive qualities but their negative qualities can also fit ours. So it is important to identify what attracts you to the guys you date.

Set new intentions. Now that you are aware of your pattern for picking the wrong guy, you can now determine to make a different choice. Making a list of qualities you are looking for in a partner is key. Write it down and post it where you will see your list, so you will recognize him when you meet him.

Enlist your friends. Believe it or not your friends do care if you are in a happy and healthy relationship. Often times your friends may not speak up about your current guy as long as you’re happy, so it’s important to ask them if they see any red flags or old patterns. They may see what you don’t want to and give you the confirmation on what you already thought. It may give you the reassurance you need to end it or move forward.

You owe it to yourself to take a look at your relationship or the new guy you’re dating before too much time goes by. Time is a commodity that we don’t get enough of. You don’t want to be approaching forty still wondering why you keep choosing the same guy who won’t marry you and the alarm on your  biological clock is so loud it sounds like a tornado siren!

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