What if the very thing getting in the way of the life you truly want to live is the perception that what you have is “good enough”? Are you content? How do you know when you are content? Webster’s explains it this way: being satisfied with what one has; not wanting more. How UN-American is that?! Is that even possible. As I read the definition, I am thinking this is a difficult concept to implement.
I am remembering all the way back to the pandemonium days of elementary school. It’s the school cafeteria at lunchtime. My mom always took such care the night before to pack my lunch, sure that I would be deliriously happy with what she packed me. It would consist of some sort of sandwich, something chocolatey in the way of cookies and a bag of chips. Being content was not on any kid’s mind at my looney lunch table! There was so much reckless trading going on, it looked like the New York Stock Exchange! Everyone was coveting what their friend had!
Fast forward forty years or so, I’m all grown up now in my lipstick and heels and nothing has changed. This GoodGirl went single because my significant other became an Overlapper! This is the affectionate term I use for grown men that act like they are in third grade and it’s lunchtime! They have a solid, committed relationship and gaze upon Newgirl and determine this is what they want now! Maybe men become Overlappers as a way to self-medicate. A little bit of NEWGIRL makes the medicine go down. It could be some men’s drug of choice! They are helplessly addicted to overlapping! Just say NO!!
They clearly must not be content with what they have, but why? Could it be there is a restlessness within them? Perhaps they have become incurable Overlappers because they are not willing to admit the relationship they have does not satisfy their spirit. So, rather than ask themselves the simple yet unmistakably obvious question, “Why do they want what’s on the other side of the fence?” they become chronic Overlappers, sucking the souls out of unsuspecting Newgirl when all she wants is to be is ONLYGIRL not LONELYGIRL!!
This GoodGirl knows the days are long but the years are short. Contentment awaits those that can come to terms with their present circumstances.