As fall slowly approaches South Florida there is a day when you step outside your home and you feel it. The temperatures don’t necessarily reflect it, but you know there is less humidity in the air, and people everywhere seem to be nicer.
We wait all year for this reprieve from the oppressive heat and high humidity.
But it’s the niceness that has me intrigued. People become happier when the thermometer goes down.
My default nature is to be happy, and I realize there are circumstances that challenge my happiness meter, there is no getting around that. However, I ponder what it is that colors my world so that I can be happy?
Was I just born that way? How much of my happiness is genetic? How much is environment? How much of being happy is simply a choice?
So, I took my question’s to Google.
It turns out it’s a hot topic. Psychologists have studied it, made theories about it, as well as Ted talks on the subject.
I believe everybody wants to be happy. Nobody wakes up and says “ I want to be miserable today.”
That being said there are things we can do to promote personal happiness. An overall state of well being.
- Surround yourself with happy people. It’s the law of attraction. If we want to be happy, envision it, expect it and you will attract it.
- Smile. It’s contagious. Even if you don’t know why you’re smiling, people will smile back at you and before you know it your mood changes to that of being happy, or at least a moment of silliness that has distracted you from being unhappy.
- Be resilient. I call it “having tough skin.” Happy people know how to bounce back from a tough time or tough situation. We have to have a self-righting mechanism within us to not want to stay keeled over when the high waves of trouble knock us over.
- Be mindful of what is good. Good is all around you, it’s your choice to see it or not. A positive attitude can add years to your life.
- Appreciate the simple things. The fact that you can walk and talk. That the sun is shining or that it is raining. Don’t take life for granted.
- Give of yourself. Be selfless. Contribute your time, talent or your treasure. There is a reason they say it is better to give than to receive. It promotes happiness.
- Have a passion. An activity or cause you immerse yourself in and allow yourself to lose track of time.
- Have meaningful conversation. Don’t just talk about the weather. Substantial conversation, where you connect with someone brings about more satisfaction.
- Look on the bright side. Be a glass half-full kind of person. You will be happier and live longer.
- Exercise daily. While exercise keeps your blood pumping to nourish your entire body, it also happens to be the best antidepressant around.
So if you thought it was the perfect job, house, car or bank account that would bring you the most happiness, think again.