Do you ever wonder what attracts you to somebody? Why are you attracted to one person and not another? How come if you were put in a room of 50 people, all of similar background, roughly the same age, intelligence, education and good looks that you don’t fall in love with all of them? It’s been said the road to love is narrow; there is only room for one, which is where the list comes in.
We make lists for everything. Grocery lists, laundry lists and to-do lists. Why not make a list for finding the One? This GoodGirl has been flying without a compass when it comes to dating. Remember playing “Pin the Tail on the Donkey” when you were a kid? You were blindfolded, spun around in circles, and then told to pin the tail on the donkey. You were so dizzy from spinning that you could actually “pin the tail” on someone else’s butt! Well, this is how dating has been for me! I have been blinded and befuddled. So when I open my eyes to see a Newguy standing there, drool dripping from the corners of his mouth, eyes popping out of his head, babbling something that sounds like, “Can I have your number?” – my head still rotating, I start rattling off my digits!
This GoodGirl, Spicegirl is no longer going to be a NICEGIRL! I have had enough random, chance meetings with smooth-talking fools that parade themselves around as men! So, I take the advice of the Love Coach and make my LIST. This is something the Love Coach has been trying to get me to do for a year. I was instructed to make my LIST, say a prayer, burn it and sprinkle the ashes over a body of water on the next full moon! I thought this was a bunch of hooey-pooey! Then I came to understand that by actually putting these character qualities and physical attributes on paper, I might actually recognize him when I meet him! I won’t have to stab in the dark anymore.
I was told my soul mate LIST should be specific and extensive. My fingers were paralyzed, unable to jot down the slightest aspect my Prince would have. Then it happened. The pathways to my cerebral cortex opened up! Before I knew it, I had pages of characteristics and traits he would possess! I was on a roll. It was designer soul mate in motion!
I had no way of knowing that within a few weeks of making my LIST it would happen! On my last GoodGirl adventure to NYC I met him. My LIST came to life! It happened organically. So unexpected. He looked at me, I looked at him, pheromones were exchanged and our romance began!
When I returned from NYC, I examined my list with a fine-tooth comb, again and again. Could it be true?! He WAS my LIST, with one exception…I neglected to include SINGLE!!!!